I have an amazing son who’s 32 years old. His name is Fergus Anthony Reed-Gilliland. He’s never been married. He has five daughters: Carmen, Amiya, Rose, Beatrice and Ariel who are all under the age of 9. He’s pursuing an engineering degree while maintaining a household as a single dad.
Carmen is not his biological daughter. She is his ex-girlfriends Joanna Hope Jr’s. Fergus met Joanna in Idaho at a call center they were both working at. He was expecting his first biological child with his girlfriend Ruby. Joanna was married and expecting her first child. After Carmen and Amiya were born, Joanna and her husband separated and got divorced. Ruby relapsed when Amiya was 3 months old and began using meth again, toting Amiya around with her. Fergus found out and left Ruby, taking his child with him. Joanna moved in with Fergus.
It was an odd arrangement because Fergus stated repeatedly how they were just good friends who were pooling their resources to raise their children better. They were friend with benefits that started in the bedroom and touched all the other areas of their lives. Joanna told me repeatedly how much she loved him and wanted to marry him. She asked for my help and I schemed with her to try to convince him they should make a lifetime commitment. I did. My BAD! He never changed his mind and they never married, which potentially drove her to madness.
Fergus met a stripper named Ramona and began dating her. She got pregnant. During her pregnancy, it became apparent she is schizophrenic. I gave her clothing to wear during her pregnancy and supported her in every way I could. She was from the East Coast and had a strained relationship with her mother. Her father flew out to check on her right before the baby was born because she’d been admitted to a mental health facility. The three of us met for dinner and that’s the last time I saw her. She had Rose and went back to live with her parents. She never called me after the baby was born. We stayed in touch on Facebook for a while. Eventually, her anger with Fergus for not committing to her caused her to break all contact between him and his family. Me. I’m heartbroken at not being in Rose’s life.
Within a month of Ramona getting pregnant, I was talking to Fergus and told him if he was still having sex with Joanna, he’d better wrap it up because otherwise she might get pregnant on purpose. He informed me it was too late, she was pregnant. During Joanna’s pregnancy, she confessed to me that Fergus might not be the father as she had sex with her ex to get back at Fergus impregnating and continuing to date Ramona. Fergus explained he was committed to Joanna’s child and his name would be put on the birth certificate regardless of who was the biological father. Although I don’t understand his decision, I’ve supported it. Joanna’s mother, Joanna Sr. hated Fergus and told Joanna if he was at the birth, she wouldn’t be there. I attended the birth, Joanna Sr. did not. Due to ethnic considerations, it was obvious Beatrice was not Fergus’ biological child. Beatrice has my middle name and, more importantly, my heart. My son has been her father from her birth.
Fergus and Joanna moved to California to be close to her family. Ariel was conceived and is the biological daughter of Fergus and Joanna Jr. So out of the five girls my son has been father to, three are his biologically, two are not. Of the two who are not, one is legally.
The relationship of the parents has fallen apart because Fergus won’t marry Joanna. She chose to abuse illegal drugs intravenously and is not mentally able to provide for their basic needs now.
Carmen is with Joanna’s parents as she has no biological parent able to care for her and they won’t allow Fergus to parent her. Amiya is with Fergus. Rose is with her mother in parts unknown. Beatrice and Ariel are with their mother in California pending a court hearing to return them to Fergus’ care.
Carmen, Amiya, Beatrice, and Ariel belong together. They’re sisters. They’re beautiful, energetic, intelligent, inquisitive, spinning princesses who love each other and their daddy deeply. They have gigantic personalities which dad encourages by loving them and spending time with them.
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